It's time to relax when theres no time to relax

Now that we can embrace the space in which we live, lets focus on relaxing our minds.

You've had a challenging, productive, and sometimes stressful day at the office. You then battled traffic to make it home. Now you need to put your mind at ease, recharge your battery, and refresh yourself so you can do the whole thing again tomorrow.

Yet the house is a mess, the dog needs a walk, you have no clean underwear for tomorrow and your partner wants to know what you're cooking for dinner (yes, it's your turn!)

Or perhaps things at home are relatively calm, but your mind is anything but. Try as you might, you just can't stop turning over the day's events – and obsessing about tomorrow's challenges. Your evening leisure hours have been stolen by work thoughts – and before you know it, it will be time to go back.

If either of these scenarios describes your after-work evenings and weekends, you might need to work a little harder at something that seems like it should come easy: Taking a well-earned breather after a long day at the office.

Studies claim that like most other tasks in life, relaxation is a skill - one that repays the effort of learning it. Mastering the art of relaxation off the job can make you more rested, focused, energetic – and successful – on it.

Difficulty concentrating;

Bad moods and rising workplace conflict;

A lack of new ideas or fresh insights; and

A loss of enthusiasm for, and enjoyment of, their jobs or even their own lifes.

Combined, these unfortunate tendencies can highjack the highest-flying career.


Now I am no therapist but I must know at least 25 people who suffer from these symptons on a daily basis.

Here are some essential and easy to follow techinques that will have you relaxed and recharged in no time:


Step 1: Allow your mind to digest information before sleep therefore no facebook, no hotmail,no revision or work for at least an hour before going to bed.

Step:2 Declutter your mind, write a list of the days achievements, or tick off your achievements from a to-do list. Make a new list of what you want to achieve tomorrow, please note these can be very mundane tasks e.g 'must email so and so, and must text so and so'

Step 3: Throw away your tension. Think about a big problem that is weighing on your mind; write a possible solution down and then throw the paper away and with it the associated tension.

Step 4: Breathe, this is the easiest yet most result worthy techinque. Place one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach, as you breathe in, focus on pushing out your stomach so your lower hand moves, your other hand should remain firm on your chest. Deep breathes will do the trick.

Step 5: Visualise. Imagine a place where you feel happy and relaxed, it can be a real or fictional place. Think about the smells, tastes, sights and the people you are with. I like to think of a Greek holiday with my 9 year old niece. That was a happy place or if that seems like too much hard work then this should do the trick....An easy and simple way to clear your mind is to go watch a fire or waves. These two elements of nature are special in that they’re very dynamic: the flames are wildly dancing and the water is constantly moving. How does it work? The always-changing fire or waves will put you in a trance. The noise in your mind lessens, and you stop thinking as much. You just be. Your mind clears, automatically sorting out what’s important and dropping what’s not. And all you have to do is sit and watch.


Step 6: Surroundings. Make sure your bedroom is well ventilated but not draughty.... and listen to this.... to associate your mind with being in bed dont read a book and dont watch telly!!

And for more information or to see where I stole this from check out: http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-relax-before-going-to-bed

Listen up, my next blog is about life goals so come prepared, i need you to decide what you want first of all. The problem with so many people is that they do not know what they really want. In other words they are not at all clear about what they want in life. Setting your goals, needs you to make a decision about that which you want, and determine when you want to have achieved that thing. In other words you must put a deadline to what you currently want. Get clear about what you want.